1. Can you tell us your TTC journey so far?
Our TTC journey has been a long one! My husband Josh and I were married in 2005 and started our attempts to grow our family in 2009. I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) in 2010 after trying for a year. [Check out Ashley's interview: from PCOS to pregnancy] We went through 6 cycles of Clomid with no success, 4 monitored Letrozole/IUI cycles and then moved on to IVF. We did 2 fresh cycles and 2 frozen cycles, transferring 7 embryos total. After a break, we jumped back in, doing 4 more Letrozole /IUI cycles and are now waiting to do one last IVF cycle with a new clinic. Over the course of our journey, we have suffered 3 miscarriages and learned that I have a Factor V Ledden mutation. Our family is still missing some pieces so we keep pressing on!
2. How long did it take to decide doing IVF?
We switched to an RE in 2012 after all of our failed Clomid cycles, which is where we learned more about IUI’s and IVF. Because our insurance does not cover any infertility treatments with the exception of initial diagnosis, it was more economical for us to do IVF after 4 failed Letrozole cycles. [See how IVF brings a baby]
3. Can you recommend a few resources regarding infertility? One book, one blog and one site/community.
Resources are such a valuable asset on this journey! There are two books that I could not do without – the first is “A Patient's Guide to PCOS: Understanding and Reversing Polycystic Ovary Syndrome” by Walter Futterweird, M.D. This book contains everything women need to know about PCOS and it was so helpful to me during early diagnosis. A book more focused on the emotions behind infertility battles is “Hannah's Hope” by Jennifer Saake, which incorporates faith in dealing from everything to infertility, miscarriages, failed adoptions and much more. [Check out KNOWHEN's Natural Family Planning Ebook]
As far as blogs go, I blog over at Starbucks, Peace, and the Pursuit of a Baby and love the community of bloggers I have met! Caroline at In Due Time and Lisa (See Lisa's interview here) at Amateur Nester bless me greatly and are two of my favorites!
And for a community - Instagram! Create an account (it can be anonymous if you choose) and search hashtags like #infertilty, #ttc, #pcos, #endo, #clomid. You will meet the most amazing group of sisters around. (And stop by my account to connect as well! I’m @chels819 and love meeting new friends!) [Take a look at fertility news and tips on KNOWHEN's Facebook community]
4. How do you encourage yourself not giving up on TTC and how would you encourage people with the same issue?
I am so thankful for the faith that I have in Christ and the strength that He provides me to continue fighting. This road is hard, the winds narrow and the bumps hurt. However, His promise to use this for our good helps me to listen while making future plans and encourages me to stay hopeful in what is to come. If you are reading this today, know you are not alone and that means you have other sisters who are surrounding you in this fight, but also, that you are not alone because there is a God who cares deeply for you in your sufferings. I encourage you to turn to Him and partner with Him in this battle. Keep your chin up my friend! Cling to Hope! Infertility will not win!
5. Will you ever consider about adoption? Why?
This has been a question my husband and I have considered and prayed about for a long time and right now, is not a process we feel called to. While adoption can be a special way to answer prayers for a family, it’s also not just an easy band-aid for a couple struggling with infertility. The process of adoption is beautiful and needed! I also believe that God didn't create every couple with the personalities, wirings or desires to go through the process. Might that change someday for us? Yes, of course! I believe God puts and changes the desires of our hearts in His timing. There are couples going through infertility that feel passionate about creating their family this way and that is beautiful, special, and perfect for the story God has written for them. But there are others who aren't called to adopt and that is beautiful and perfect as well. I so greatly admire people with the heart and calling of adoption. It is one of the most beautiful processes and I have so many friends who have made it look effortless and have handled it all with such joy and grace.
Chelsea is a 29 year-old girl from the Midwest, writing over at Starbucks, Peace and the Pursuit of a Baby. She’s been married to Josh for almost 10 years and their right-now family is rounded out with the perfect little furbaby ever, a morkie named Cali. Chelsea loves a good Americano, a cozy bookshop and is a sucker for paper and pens. She values engaging her faith in this trial and embracing the season with joy.