Emily encourages other women to be queens of their households by sharing what she is learning. Much of what she writes about is her faith, being a mother, saving money, healthy living, and home tips. After teaching for several years, she became a stay-at-hom-mom where she stays busy taking care of her son and running the household. She loves the outdoors, easy healthy living, iced coffee, organizing, and decorating her home.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and your baby?

About ten years ago I moved to Florida because I wanted to live somewhere warm after going to college in Wisconsin. I started my teaching career and soon after met my husband. We were not sure if we were going to be able to have children, but after 5 years we found out we were pregnant. Currently, I stay home with my son. He was born in May 2014 and is a very happy and curious one year old. He brings so much joy into our lives.

In your article How Infertility Changed Me, you mention that negative emotion made you become a person you do not like. As we know, many couples are facing this issue during their TTC process. What are your tips for dealing with frustration?

Infertility can cause a huge roller coaster of emotions. The first few years of my infertility journey I was so focused on what I didn't have that I became very angry and bitter. It wasn't until I started being thankful for all that was in my life that I started to be a much happier person. To deal with the frustration I would encourage you to let your feelings out rather than keeping them inside. Because I am a Christian, I prayed about it and talked to the Lord often about my frustration. If you like to write or journal about your feelings, that can be a good way to put thought and words to your frustration. I started my blog to help me focus on the positive things in my life. I also think that it is important to be around positive people.

[For more information go to our blog post "How Do Emotion Affect Fertility" to know more about the affect by emotion OR go to our TTC Story Section to see how others overcome their frustration.]

Follow up: How do family, friends and partners help a woman who is having infertility issues? Should they talk about it, provide information or just let it be natural and avoid conversations regarding this topic?

If a person going through infertility doesn't want to talk about it, family and friends should not push the issue. There were a few people in my life who always had “advise” to give me. I finally had to say to them, “I don't want to talk about it. It's very personal.” Unless a family member or friend has gone through infertility, most anything they say will not help. The best way to help someone going through infertility is to listen without judgment or unwanted advise and to be patient with them and show them love and support.

Do you have any quotes and inspirational stories that inspired and encouraged you lots when you were trying to get pregnant? Can you share them with our readers?

I read the book So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore. In this book I was challenged to face my biggest fear which was never becoming a mom. Beth reminded me that God is with me no matter what. It was at this time that I let go of trying to control the uncontrollable. I claimed this verse: Psalm 18:30, “As for God, his ways are perfect.” I could trust his plan for my life even when I didn't understand it.

“Bloom where you are planted,” was also an encouragement to me. It reminded me that every season of my life could be beautiful and I didn't need to wait until I was a mom to have a beautiful life.

[Also check out our "Top 10 TTC Quotes That Can Motivate You" for more inspiration]

Anything else you'd like to say and share with us?

Infertility can be a lonely, sad journey, but it can also be life changing. Through my journey, I learned how to stand up for myself, I became closer to my husband, I learned to trust God, and I became a much happier and thankful person. If you are going through infertility at this time, please find some kind up support whether in real life or online. It always helps to know that you are not alone in your journey. Be thankful for all that you do have in your life. Sometimes we miss the blessings in our lives when we focus on what we do not have.


About Emily

Emily the TTC blogger

Emily encourages other women to be queens of their households by sharing what she is learning. Much of what she writes about is her faith, being a mother, saving money, healthy living, and home tips. After teaching for several years, she became a stay-at-hom-mom where she stays busy taking care of her son and running the household. She loves the outdoors, easy healthy living, iced coffee, organizing, and decorating her home.

 

KNOWHEN® strives to help women understand ovulation cycles and control your family plan. Learn more features of our saliva fertility testers.